Last year around this time I turned over the finances to my husband. In 14 years of marriage I have aways managed the money but a new level of soul searching and letting go led me to “try” something new. We don’t have an unusual amount of conflict around spending—just the normal amount. 😉 But when we look at where we’ve been overspending it’s almost always the same: clothing, dining and recreation. We set a budget and go over that budget. And, honestly, the clothing category is all me. So, all this to say, I had to start being “good.” For the last year I was given a monthly cash allowance of roughly what I should have been spending all along. Allowance is for anything outside of the budget. Oh yeah, “Clothing” ceased to be a category. My “mad money” was to pay for clothing, make up, hair, nails, etc. But, it gets tricky when ordering things on-line. I have to use a Credit card and then pay it back with cash. It got pretty confusing and so I kind of gave up keeping track. I honestly didn’t know if I had been good. I mean, I kind of knew I wasn’t when the Nordstrom sale came around in the Spring. (Stitch Fix also contributed to my downfall.) A lot of what I bought has been underwear and workout-wear which I don’t think should count toward “additions to my closet” but whatev. I’ll also mention that I justified overspending by selling clothes on Poshmark. I made about $225 from Postmark sales.
The following is what I added to my wardrobe this year:
Gap – bras & undies $94
J. Crew – Shirt-jacket in buffalo check $43
Stitch Fix – Mavi jeans $6 (w/ giftcard)
Old Navy – gray hoodie $28
Old Navy – gingham shirt $20
LOFT – print dress $36
DSW – Puma sneakers $50
Poshmark – J Brand army shorts $14
Poshmark – Gap jeans in black $26
Gap – Sports Bras in black & gray $24 ea.
Gap – Workout tank in white $16
Asics – workout tank $13
Poshmark – J. Crew straw market tote $26
Poshmark – NB workout tank $16
DSW – nude ballet flats $40
Poshmark – Madewell heels $66
Banana Republic – Camisole $25
Banana Republic – Striped tank $25
Stitch Fix – Joie tee $148
Nordstrom – Amour Vert long sleeve striped tee $88
Nordstrom – Vince Camuto sandals in red $53
Nordstrom – Topshop cigarette pants $38
Poshmark – Gap workout leggings $19
Poshmark – Madewell tank $19
J. Crew – denim shorts $56
Gap – long sleeve striped tees in gray/white & navy/white $11 ea.
Gap – tank top in gray $15
Gap – undies $16
Athleta – bikini top $30
Famous Footwear – Nikes $75
DSW – Roxy flip flops $25
Athleta – bikini bottom $21
Snap back hat – $24
Nordstrom Rack – Steve Madden flats in black $50
Banana Republic – A-line skirt in olive $39
J. Crew – A-line midi sweater skirt $63
Gap – Vintage Wash Short Sleeve Tee in “Glass of Water” blue $10
So that’s the extent of it. I know that may seem like a lot to spend to some people (or very little to others) and I hesitated to include prices but for me it’s important to drag it out into the light of day. To be true to myself. Throughout the year I bought and returned quite a few items. I knew they weren’t right, that I wouldn’t wear them. Some of what I bought (and kept) turned out to be great decisions, and others were not. Live and learn, I guess. It makes me see that I can stand to be a lot more intentional in my buying process. To my credit, I tend to pin things to a wish list board and then wait a while before pulling the trigger.
My ultimate goal is to enjoy what I wear, how I look and then get on with it. You know? I hope somebody somewhere gets some inspiration from this, on how to have fun with clothes, but, like in a grown-up-y way.