The Gentle Way to Achieve Your Goals

The Gentle Way to Achieve Your Goals

DAILY BULLET JOURNALING

I love my bullet journal. When I first heard about the idea, I was skeptical. Then, I heard Anna Newton, from the Anna Edit, rave about it and I knew I had to try it.

Here’s how I do it and why it has changed my life:

  • I jot down only the things I want to get done today
  • I check off completed tasks to give me a sense of accomplishment
  • I migrate uncompleted tasks to the next day (without judgement)
  • I look at consistently migrated tasks to learn where I’m stuck and ask myself if they’re really important
  • I get a clear visual of whether or not I’m trying to do too much
  • I get consistent reinforcement which creates strong habits
  • I benefit from intentionality and focus, and building of neural pathways, that comes from handwriting*

My bullet journal consists mostly of daily to do lists. I tried to do the future log and the monthly log but they didn’t work for me in the long run. I do like to create a monthly goals list at the beginning of each month. I also use the index feature (kind of like a table of contents). Sometimes I insert special to do lists, like all the tasks I need to do for a big on-going project, or lists of things that I do for self care. I also have a list for clothing purchases to help keep me honest.

My daily lists are short bulleted phrases. Events get a circle bullet and time. When I complete a task, I put and X over the bullet. When I write the list the next day, I draw a right-facing arrow over the bullet of any incomplete tasks from the previous day and add it to the new day. If a task or an event doesn’t happen and I know it can’t or won’t in the future, I draw a line through it. I try to be equally happy with things that happened (as planned) and things that didn’t. Sometimes I’ll add items after they’ve happened and check them off. It helps so much to see all I’ve done. Almost everyday I include things like meditate, workout, take vitamins, do writing. Doing these basic things everyday, seeing them completed, reinforces my ability to reach my goals. And then I build on that foundation. It retrains my brain. It may seem overly simplistic but it has been life changing.

RESOURCES:

The best video to explain the process: How to Bullet Journal

The original: Bullet Journal

You could use any paper notebook like Moleskine or leuchtturm but I do like the feeling of the actual Bullet Journal. I’ve learned that the thick pages prevent ink bleed and that they have enough pages for an entire year.

* I also do journal-journalling, that is, stream of consciousness writing, based on Julia Cameron’s Artist’s Way morning pages. This is much less goal oriented and more creative and spiritual. More on that next time.

Gingerade

Gingerade

I wanted to share this recipe with you when my friend Joan sent it to me back in September. It’s definitely a summer drink, but I’m thinking lemon and ginger are exactly what I need in the Pennsylvania winter. It can be served hot. I just love this photo. I picture Joan’s box bay window over her kitchen sink with that quintessential California tile and the view into the back yard. I think of her picking the lemons right off a lemon tree in the backyard because that’s what you do in Santa Cruz.

In PA they call this “Switchel” and it’s said to be a cure-all. The old Dutchie (Pennsylvania Dutch or “Deutsch”) men around here swear by it, that it gives you limitless energy and hydration when working in the fields all day and soothes muscle aches, probably from the apple cider vinegar. Be sure to use raw unfiltered apple cider vinegar with “The Mother.” I have never tried it but will be whipping some up soon.

 

 

 

Gingerade Recipe

 

INGREDIENTS:
I CUP PEELED & SLICED GINGERROOT
6 CUPS WATER
1/2 CUP LEMON JUICE
1/2 CUP APPLE CIDER VINEGAR
1/2 CUP HONEY
1 PINCH OF SALT

 

INSTRUCTIONS:
BOIL WATER
ADD GINGER
BRING TO BOIL
SIMMER FOR 30 MINUTES
STRAIN GINGER LIQUID
MIX IN OTHER INGREDIENTS
POUR INTO JARS
ALLOW TO COOL
REFRIGERATE

My Favorite Healthy Smoothie Bowls

My Favorite Healthy Smoothie Bowls

I LOVE A SMOOTHIE BOWL.

I used to think the whole idea of a smoothie in a bowl was weird and didn’t understand it. They seemed so unnecessarily complicated with all the layered fruit and coconut and chia seeds and I wondered why people bothered. Now I’m totally on board. I totally get it. My creations are quick and easy to make and thought they vary slightly, they generally include banana, mixed frozen fruit, spinach, protein powder, almond milk, and then are topped with granola and kiwi, strawberry, or blackberries if I have them. I blend them with a Ninja Bullet blender. I actually prefer mine to Playa Bowl’s.

This granola is very good. I usually make my own sugar-free granola but when I ran out, I was happy to find this. Highly recommend.

This blender is a workhorse. We use ours almost every day.

I like this brand of protein powders. Both the vanilla and the chocolate.

Juicy — What I Like About Juicing

Juicy — What I Like About Juicing

Hello friends, fruit lovers. 

When I was a child, the only juice in our house was orange juice. It was made from a can of frozen concentrate, the cheap generic brand. And my dad watered it down. We drank it only at breakfast.

Fast forward to today, our grocery list includes some if not all of the following: OJ, lemonade, cranberry juice, cranberry/pomegranate juice, grape juice. We ofter mix them with carbonated water from our SodaStream. Our fridge also contains Gatorade (only “the blue”), Celsius energy drinks, Fairlife protein shakes, Diet Coke, and La Croix (lime).

I know juice has a lot of sugar and is only marginally better than soda. There was a time when many people thought juicing was super healthy. Then they questioned whether they were actually just consuming a lot of fruit-based sugar without the benefit of fiber. Back when I was in college, my mom gave me a giant industrial juicer which I never used. When our apartment was robbed, and they took the juicer I was actually grateful.

Now I’m sort of wishing I had one. I do have a Ninja Bullet for making smoothies and smoothie bowls and it’s great, but I suspect I need a juicer in order to blend hardier things like carrots, celery, apples, and the like. Just like with my smoothies, I think the trick to limiting the amount of sugar in a juice is to include veggies. Kale and spinach are practically undetectable. Coconut water or almond milk add liquid without adding more sweetener when you already have frozen fruit in there. Protein powders, oats, chia seeds and almond butter all add fiber and/or protein, not more sugar.

If you’re in the market for a juicer, here are a few options I’m considering. (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Just so you know.)

MATCHES MY BLENDER  |  NINJA

AFFORDABLE ONE  |  HAMILTON BEACH

PRETTIEST/SPLURGE  |  BREVILLE

GREEN JUICE

When I was in Mexico recently, I tried Jugo Verde. It was amazing. When I asked what was in it, they said, “cucumber, cactus, parsley, orange, and pineapple.” If I had a juicer, I would definitely make this.

Granola

Granola

I used to joke about people who made their own granola, then I became one of them.

SUGAR-FREE GRANOLA RECIPE FROM SARAH WILSON’S
I QUIT SUGAR

Coco-nutty granola

  • 3 cups coconut flakes
  • 2 cups almonds, cashews, or pecans, chopped roughly
  • 1/2 cup oats
  • 1 teaspoon cinnamon
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 4 tablespoons coconut oil, melted
  • 3 tablespoons brown rice syrup
  • pinch of coarse salt, sprinkled on top

Preheat oven to 250° F. Mix all ingredients in a bowl, and spread evenly on a parchment-lined cookie sheet. Bake for about 30 minutes, until golden, turning halfway.

 

How These 4 Women Are Learning to Love The Skin They’re In

How These 4 Women Are Learning to Love The Skin They’re In

I interviewed 4 women, at different stages of life, to find out what they do to feel their best. Here are their responses.

ZOEY, AGE 15

How do you feel about your body?
I think my relationship with my body is constantly changing. Depending on factors such as weather, time of my cycle, and even when my life isn’t going great. I often find myself wishing it looked different but I think overall I try to love it as much as I can.

What diet works best for you?
The diet that works best for me includes three smaller meals and some snacks throughout the day. I try to pick a healthy choice if possible but I find that trying to restrict can lead to unhelpful habits forming.

What’s your favorite kind of exercise?
I love running more than anything. It helps me sort my thoughts and makes me feel amazing. But any kind of high-impact I enjoy.

How do you overcome negative thoughts?
Some tools I use to overcome negative thoughts are retracing my steps and writing about them. By retracing my steps I mean thinking about what I’ve eaten or what I’ve done today for my body and it makes me feel like I’m doing the best that I can. Writing also really helps me unpack how I’m feeling.

CATHERINE, AGE 51

How do you feel about your body?
Past or present? That’s a huge question. I have a sort of interesting relationship with my body. When I was young, I was very skinny and I wished I was curvy. When I developed in my teen years, I felt better about my body, partly due to having a great boyfriend. I was always active. I danced and liked to go for walks. When I was 17, I went to Spain to study and fell in love with the food. When someone close to me said I looked heavy, I abruptly stopped eating and became almost anorexic. l lost 30 pounds!  When I came home to the States, I was able to go back to a carefree relationship with food. In my 20s, I felt at ease and empowered. Now, in my 50s, with perimenopause, the main feeling has been, my body is good to me. I feel strong and attractive. It has helped that the men in my life have found me beautiful. As I’m facing getting older, I feel like my body is not my body—I gain weight much easier, I have a different shape—but I’m trying to make peace with it. I’ve gone from awkward to empowered, discomfort to peace.

What diet works best for you?
I feel best when I’m eating a high-(lean) protein diet: chicken, fish, and then vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. When I do that I feel clean and energized. But I know I definitely have a sugar addiction. And I love French bread. And chocolate. And cheese! I don’t eat red meat. I was a vegetarian for years and only added fish and poultry when I was pregnant. I think I would benefit from eating more meat, but I can’t really bring myself to do it. I guess I eat mostly a Mediterranean diet.

What’s your favorite kind of exercise?
I really love dance. In an ideal world, I’d still be going out clubbing. Dancing all night is a great workout. I walk and do yoga but I really love Jazzercise. I need to exercise. It’s how I stay sane. I used to do the gym, the Nautilus. I used to run a lot. Actually, I’ve been a runner for probably 30 years. But now it hurts my hips. I want my workouts to really count, I want them to be challenging. I like to get them done quickly!

How do you overcome negative thoughts?
If I’m having negative thoughts about my body, it’s because I’ve done something unhealthy, like eat too many sweets or eat a bunch of food when I’m not even hungry. Those thoughts are there for a reason. I don’t want to overeat, so I try to recommit to myself to doing the things I know are good for me, I’ll go for a walk, drink water, do meditation, bring myself back to the present moment. I have learned to be gentle with myself. With aging and my changing body, it’s a process to change how I view myself and how I not relate to my partner. Now, when I’ve have negative thoughts, I will actively disrupt my thought patterns. I’ll say, “shut up!” Haha. Not very gentle, but it works. Then I’ll turn the thoughts around and focus on the positive.

EMILY, AGE 26

How do you feel about your body?
I feel relatively good about my body. I’ve always struggled with my weight and body image but with age am getting better at giving myself grace.

What diet works best for you?
I’m a volume eater. To keep my portion sizes under control while still feeling full, my meals are usually at least 50% veggies or leafy greens. I always include a protein and I try to avoid dairy. Other than that, I don’t restrict myself to a particular diet. I think everything is fine in moderation.

What’s your favorite kind of exercise?
I love running. I have a hard time meditating so I find long runs to be both good for the mind and body! Recently, I joined Orange Theory for some cross training and it’s awesome. Since I started, my mile time has dropped significantly. Plus it’s a great way to socialize with other people who love fitness as much as I do!

How do you overcome negative thoughts?
I struggle with this one. Staying active helps to keep my mind at ease. I also like using the boxed breathing technique. You inhale for 4 seconds, hold the breath for 4 seconds, and exhale for (you guessed it) 4 seconds. It helps to center me when I’m extra stressed or feeling negative.

JENNIFER, AGE 55

How do you feel about your body?
I love it! I’m super grateful for it. I love that I enjoy it, and value it. I will say though, I would like to be physically stronger, like, build more muscle mass.

What diet works best for you?
I eat mostly organic greens, and vegetables, and focus on eating a high protein/low-fat diet. I get most of my animal-based protein from dairy.  I really love Greek yogurt. I sprinkle cinnamon on it which tastes almost sweet!

What’s your favorite kind of exercise?
Pilates. I need to do it more! I also like yoga, dance, and tai chi.

How do you overcome negative thoughts?
I practice positive self talk. I read books or internet articles about positivity. And practicing healthy habits really helps. Exercise helps! Someone once said, “Move a muscle, change a thought.”